I Love You, Nice to Meet You:
A Guy and a Girl Give the Lowdown
on Coupling Up

by Lori Gottlieb and Kevin Bleyer

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About the Book
In the bitingly funny, razor-sharp I Love You, Nice to Meet You, platonic friends Kevin Bleyer (“The Daily Show with Jon Stewart”) and Lori Gottlieb give the no-holds-barred lowdown on coupling up from the both the male and female points of view.  Or as they like to put it, “Twice the perspective, half the insight” (after all, what do they know – they’re still single).  

Like romance anthropologists, Lori and Kevin deconstruct every key moment in the lifecycle of a relationship, from what the fake purse-grab really means when the check comes (how hard is it to find your wallet in a purse the size of doughnut?) to fighting etiquette (Is all fair when love is war?) to who gets “home couch advantage” in couples therapy.  Based on stories from their own dating experiences (funny for you, mortifying for them), I Love You, Nice to Meet You is a hilarious and eye-opening collection of “anecdates” from a guy and a girl who just want to find the one but – lucky for you – haven’t.

What People are Saying
"I laughed and then I laughed again... then my stomach hurt and I was glad I was married!"
—Greg Behrendt, New York Times bestselling author of He's Just Not That Into You

"This book is both funny and true. If only I weren't happily married so I could use it to find my soul mate."
—Stephen Colbert, host of Comedy Central’s The Colbert Report

"The best new funny book about dating on planet Earth, perhaps in the entire universe, and certainly in the Milky Way. Even Tolstoy and God together couldn't write something as funny and cool and weird and wonderful as this."
—Molly Jong-Fast, author of Normal Girl and The Sex Doctors in the Basement

I Love You, Nice to Meet You is funny, affecting, blunt and useful. Kevin and Lori are generous to old flames (well, most of them) and unsparing on themselves. This book may or may not help you find true happiness. But it will give you good, sound advice about what not to talk about over that first cup of coffee, or what items that are best not displayed in your medicine cabinet. Their alternating interpretations make us laugh at the gaffes we have all committed in hope of love. But they still hold out hope for love."
—Scott Simon, host of NPR’s Weekend Edition Saturday

"For lonely urban singles, here–finally–is a warm, witty companion to crawl into bed with at night. The bad news is, it's a book. The good news is, I Love You, Nice to Meet You is very funny, only costs a low one-time fee, and won't call you regularly at 1 a.m. 'just to say hi' (I forget in which chapter, but it's covered). Shake up a cosmo for one and enjoy."
—Sandra Tsing Loh, author of A Year in Van Nuys

"The funniest book about dating to date. Gottlieb and Bleyer guide us through the twists and turning points in every relationship, providing insight, fresh perspectives, personal anecdotes and hearty laughs along the way. Read it in one big gulp, or savor slowly, bite by bite."
—Valerie Frankel, author of Hex and the Single Girl and The Girlfriend Curse

"It's amazing that this is a funny book because this is one exhaustingly detailed compendium of everything that could ever go wrong in every stage of a love relationship. At long last, you, the book buying public, will never again have to actually participate in this barbaric uncivilized ritual to become the grizzled cynical veteran of bad love you were destined to be. For this we all owe Kevin Bleyer and Lori Gottlieb a debt of gratitude."
—Merrill Markoe, original head writer of The Late Show with David Letterman and author of It’s My F---ing Birthday: A Novel

"Sure, chivalry died. But it got replaced by something much funnier--and luckily Lori Gottlieb and Kevin Bleyer are here to describe it. In dueling essays, the authors spar, match wits, and reveal startling truths about contemporary relationships.Whether you're searching for the soulmate you have yet to meet, or getting increasingly irritated at the one you found already, this book provides the antidote: pure laughter."
—Jenny Lyn Bader, co-author He Meant, She Meant: The Definitive Male-Female Dictionary

Publishers Weekly
Knowing that bad dates make good stories, Gottlieb (Stick Figure: A Diary of My Former Self) and Bleyer, a writer for The Daily Show with Jon Stewart, share a collection of "anecdates" in this he-said she-said guide to "coupling up" that has not infrequent flashes of true hilarity—a rarity among the ever swelling ranks of humorous dating guides. The authors, good friends who have never been an item ("not now, not then"), provide individual interpretations on the standard fare of relationship topics, but cleverly; chapter titles include "Venue Ask Her Out – Is 'location, location, location' the key to getting a second date?" and "I'll Show You Mine, If You Show Me How – Is there any civilized way to get naked with a new lover?" Insights such as "If you cry about anything less than the death of a mother…you're doomed," "Oprah is pornography for women" and "a week of uninterrupted physical presence isn't a sign of love. It's a stakeout," make Gottlieb and Bleyer's stiff shots of wisdom go down more like a fizzy summertime cocktail, helping to make the dating game, if not always fun, at least fun to read about.

Library Journal
Thirtysomething journalist Gottlieb (Stick Figure: A Diary of My Former Self) and TV writer Bleyer (The Daily Show with Jon Stewart) have written a wonderful gem of wit, honesty, snarkiness, advice, and commentary about all the pleasant and less-than-pleasant aspects of dating relationships. They profile dating in a series of short chapters, beginning with potential dates, first dates, and blind dates and continuing through exclusive dating, serious relationships, breaking up, and post-breakup issues. Each chapter contains a "He Said..." section by Bleyer and a "She Said..." section by Gottlieb that do a wonderful job of addressing an issue from both genders' perspectives. Throughout the book, the authors maintain their irreverence, candor (even when sharing embarrassing stories from their own lives), and ability to boil down big relationship issues to a few pages of witty analysis. Expect this book to be popular.
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